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Entries in film (4)

Sunday
Dec172017

Boxing Day Carol: the movie

 

This short film was scripted and directed by John Bell, a Dad who is part of Midlothian Sure Start's Dads' Group, funded by Big Lottery Scotland.  If you didn't make it to the world premiere showing in Edinburgh on 16th December, here's a chance to see the film for yourself.


It emerged from a discussion by Dads on the emotional challenges of Christmas. The Dads Coordinator for Midlothian Sure Start, Tim Porteus says, 'The film powerfully recognises the emotional pain of Christmas for parents in this situation, but has an uplifting message about making the best of time they have.'

John Bell is a dad who has additional challenges because of a condition which means he has chronic and disabling pain.  John states, 'The pain I have is another angle I came at this. I've done my best not to allow my physical pain to be an issue for my children. In the same way, the simple message in the film is we understand the emotional pain for parents in this situation, but being a parent is also about putting our children first, and sometimes being creative in how we can do that, even in challenging circumstances.'

The film lasts 30mins and was filmed over three days last year. John's pain levels got too much to be able to edit it for last Christmas, but has managed to complete it just in time for this Christmas.

 

Thursday
Dec142017

Boxing Day carol for fathers

A short film about a father's experience of Christmas when separated from his son has a free showing at the Scottish Storytelling Centre, 43-45 High Street, Edinburgh on Saturday 16th December at 4.30pm.

This short film was scripted and directed by John Bell, a Dad who is part of Midlothian Sure Start's Dads' Group, funded by Big Lottery Scotland.

It emerged from a discussion by Dads on the emotional challenges of Christmas. The Dads Coordinator for Midlothian Sure Start, Tim Porteus says, 'The film powerfully recognises the emotional pain of Christmas for parents in this situation, but has an uplifting message about making the best of time they have.'

John Bell is a dad who has additional challenges because of a condition which means he has chronic and disabling pain.  John states, 'The pain I have is another angle I came at this. I've done my best not to allow my physical pain to be an issue for my children. In the same way, the simple message in the film is we understand the emotional pain for parents in this situation, but being a parent is also about putting our children first, and sometimes being creative in how we can do that, even in challenging circumstances.'

The film lasts 30mins and was filmed over three days last year. John's pain levels got too much to be able to edit it for last Christmas, but has managed to complete it just in time for this Christmas.

Wednesday
Dec122012

Parental Alienation: interview with Karen Woodall

When Karen Woodall from the Centre for Separated Families was in Edinburgh for our events on December 4th we filmed a short interview with her.

Kare gave two talks that day, one to a audience composed mainly of professionals (lawyers, mediators, child psychiatrists and people working with children and parents).  After mentioning how the English courts are recognising alienation as a feature of some high conflict contact disputes, she described how this unreasonable rejection of one parent is a sign that a child's adaptation to parental separation has gone wrong.

She talked about cases she has experienced and treatment routes involving work with the whole family.  The need for a "super-parent" was mentioned - taking a role when the parents themselves aren't able to sort things out. 

For cases in court, the judge could act as "super-parent", and in discussion it was commented that a few Sheriff's are already dong this.

The evening session was attended by parents and grandparents who are experiencing alienation, including some who are not seeing their children at all.  Karen talked about the causes of alienation and how it is affected by the previous experience of the parents, as well as offering reassurance that alienated children do eventually seek out the rejected parent.

In bringing Karen Woodall to Scotland, FNFS hopes to promote follow-on work both amongst the legal and family support professionals and amongst Scottish parents affected by alienation.  We are gathering comments and experiences through a short survey which is open to anyone, not just participants at the events, and will promote further networking. 

See also this Scottish site and Karen's blog.

Tuesday
Oct162012

People call it "living bereavement"

Jane and Mark haven't seen their granddaughter for five years, since their son split up with the children's mother.

In hard-hitting and emotional item on BBC Inside Out West, grandparents describe the grief and agony of not seeing their grandchildren because of family conflict.

Some grandparents have spent their life savings in attempts to get court orders for contact, but even with a court order there is no guarantee the contact takes place.

Proposed shared care legislation in England may help, but there is still a lot to be done before this problem is solved.

As Jane says "Our hope for the future is that one day we will open our front door to a young lady" their missing grand-daughter.

Grandparents Apart have been campaigning on this issue in Scotland for many years, and grandparents often also attend Families Need Fathers Scotland groups to seek our support.