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Entries in Christmas (6)

Sunday
Dec172017

Boxing Day Carol: the movie

 

This short film was scripted and directed by John Bell, a Dad who is part of Midlothian Sure Start's Dads' Group, funded by Big Lottery Scotland.  If you didn't make it to the world premiere showing in Edinburgh on 16th December, here's a chance to see the film for yourself.


It emerged from a discussion by Dads on the emotional challenges of Christmas. The Dads Coordinator for Midlothian Sure Start, Tim Porteus says, 'The film powerfully recognises the emotional pain of Christmas for parents in this situation, but has an uplifting message about making the best of time they have.'

John Bell is a dad who has additional challenges because of a condition which means he has chronic and disabling pain.  John states, 'The pain I have is another angle I came at this. I've done my best not to allow my physical pain to be an issue for my children. In the same way, the simple message in the film is we understand the emotional pain for parents in this situation, but being a parent is also about putting our children first, and sometimes being creative in how we can do that, even in challenging circumstances.'

The film lasts 30mins and was filmed over three days last year. John's pain levels got too much to be able to edit it for last Christmas, but has managed to complete it just in time for this Christmas.

 

Friday
Dec152017

Christmas survival tips if you're not seeing your kids

Christmas can be the loneliest time of the year for divorced or separated parents. It is the time they most want to see their children but it may not be their turn to have them for Christmas Day. Here are some tips that attendees at our group meetings have suggested.

1 Remember to put the kids first. Even though you are missing them don’t put your distress ahead of their enjoyment. Encourage them to look forward to the next time they’re with you.

2 Try and negotiate with your former partner at least a phone call with your children on Christmas Day so they know you are thinking about them and sharing their excitement.

3 Try and agree with your former partner that it’s fair for the children to have Christmas Day with each of you on alternate years.

4 If you do have them this year don’t go overboard on arrangements. Think ahead about what they’ll enjoy rather than what’s expensive. It’s time together that counts in the long run.

5 Don’t compete on presents with your former partner. Outspending will create friction especially if money is short for both of you. When you have limited time with your children it’s often tempting to try and compensate by extravagant gestures. Don’t. Good cheer now may pay off in the New Year.

6 Keep in mind that your children will remember the time they have with you. Don’t worry that they don’t give you a second thought when they’re not with you. That’s what kids are like.

7 If you don’t have any contact with your kids at all, sit down and write them a letter. Even if you never send it it’ll be your time with them this year.

8 Don’t let yourself get miserable or lonely at home. Make sure you see friends or think about volunteering with some of the organisations that look after others at Christmas.

Thursday
Dec142017

Boxing Day carol for fathers

A short film about a father's experience of Christmas when separated from his son has a free showing at the Scottish Storytelling Centre, 43-45 High Street, Edinburgh on Saturday 16th December at 4.30pm.

This short film was scripted and directed by John Bell, a Dad who is part of Midlothian Sure Start's Dads' Group, funded by Big Lottery Scotland.

It emerged from a discussion by Dads on the emotional challenges of Christmas. The Dads Coordinator for Midlothian Sure Start, Tim Porteus says, 'The film powerfully recognises the emotional pain of Christmas for parents in this situation, but has an uplifting message about making the best of time they have.'

John Bell is a dad who has additional challenges because of a condition which means he has chronic and disabling pain.  John states, 'The pain I have is another angle I came at this. I've done my best not to allow my physical pain to be an issue for my children. In the same way, the simple message in the film is we understand the emotional pain for parents in this situation, but being a parent is also about putting our children first, and sometimes being creative in how we can do that, even in challenging circumstances.'

The film lasts 30mins and was filmed over three days last year. John's pain levels got too much to be able to edit it for last Christmas, but has managed to complete it just in time for this Christmas.

Sunday
Aug192012

Santa doesn't come to daddy's house

Now that the school holidays are over, the next issue facing separated families may well be the arrangements for Christmas.

One member started to discuss with his solicitor about asking for contact from Christmas Eve into Christmas morning, given that his child spent last Christmas with her mother.

He was disconcerted when his solicitor just laughed and exclaimed "no way!"

He asked what was funny. She replied, "Santa doesn't come to daddy's house" and then suggested that ALL Sheriffs in Scotland will grant the mother the right to have their child/children waking up in their home on Christmas day as "Santa will only go there!".

Apart from hoping that this particular lawyer was mistaken about sheriffs in her own area FNF Scotland knows that some sheriffs have agreed proposals to alternate contact arrangements for Christmas and birthdays.

We would point out the Scottish Government's Parenting Agreement for Scotland makes no mention of the one-sided viewpoint the solicitor appeared to believe although it does make the sensible suggestion that special days such as birthdays and Christmas should be discussed well in advance, and that children should be consulted.

Sunday
Dec182011

Season's greetings from FNF Scotland

We're not sending out any cards, but our best wishes to all the people who have attended our events, turned up at local group meetings and sent us information and ideas during 2011.

Particular good wishes to all the members of Families Need Fathers Scotland, especially those who have raised money at sponsored events or given their time to support others through phone calls and emails, at meetings or by turning up at court hearings or witnessing tricky handovers. 

Members have also attended MSP surgeries, written letters to local papers or rung in to phone-ins to get the message across that Families Need Fathers and Both Parents Matter.

We have made some significant advances during the year, but a lot remains to be done in 2012.

Ian Maxwell and John Forsyth.